A Woman's Book of Changes by Adele Aldridge
If you have any questions about my work here with I Ching Meditations,
or regarding I Ching in general, this is a place where you can post them.
Hi! I was browsing out of sheer curiosity and I came across your website. My date of birth is 27 October. 1984. Can you please tell me if I have already come across my soulmate. I think I have completely messed up my chances. But please let me know if there is even a glimmer of hope for me. Anxiously waiting for ur answer.
I think you might need to see an astrologer about this question. Or perhaps ask the I Ching your question.
When there is a question of making a major life change, and the I ching basically says not NOW. How long should I wait before asking the question again?
Thanks for posting, Gina.
That’s a hard question to answer but probably one that many people think about at some point. I know that when I am anxious to know or understand something and then consult the I Ching about the issue I tend to over ask if I don’t like the response. I would say try dropping the issue for a while, accepting the response you don’t like and then wait and see if anything changes in the situation. Maybe then a new inquiry into the subject will be useful. Remember the I Ching is based on constant change. And bottom line, since the I Ching is always subjective, follow your intuition.
The Yi , if nothing else , acts as a kind of buffer zone , in making important decisions . ‘ Excuse me while I consult the Yi ‘ ,
That’s from a week ,to ten years .
# 4 meng , stop .
This would be meng without changing lines # no further information given . Stop wasting your life .
wnat does `own reality “ mean in gua 60:3 ?
I am assuming you re referring to Hexagram 60, “Limitation” – line 3. I don’t know what interpretation you are reading. In the Wilhelm version he says, “He who knows no limitation will have cause to lament.” I think (not knowing your reference) that the advice to “own reality” could apply to this interpretation although it is a bit more abstract. In my own, “I Ching Prescriptions” I suggested, for line 3, “Be aware of your own limits and work within those parameters. If you misjudge these limitations don’t blame anyone else on what happens.” That could be “owning reality.”
Does this help? Are we talking about the same thing?
Thanks for posting,
I have only recently begun consulting the I Ching for wisdom and insight.
My question is about throwing the coins (I found the yarrow oracle to be too time consuming). Is there a difference of building the hexagram for a female. I believe traditionally that the hexagrams are built in ascending order (from the bottom up). I wondered that since instructions for throwing and building the hexagrams is masculine based if you have given any thought to whether or not the trigrams/hexagrams would be built differently for the feminine thrower? As in a descending order (from the top down), given the yin or opposite nature of the feminine from that of the yang/masculine nature?
Much thanks for your insight and consideration,
Thanks for your comment Michelle –
First: About using the yarrow stalks – I used to use that method but when I learned that the odds for receiving a yang or a yin line are not equal I decided to go back to the coin method. I enjoyed the meditative quality when using the stalks, but prefer there being an equal chance of yin to yang. Although I am told the yarrow stalks were the original method and some people prefer it for that reason.
As for throwing the coins for a female – I would definitely stick with the method of moving from bottom to top. This is the way the Chinese write in general, not just for the I Ching. There is a logic to it if you think about it. I have a suggestion for you just for the heck of trying it out. Write your lines both ways as an experiment and see if you learning anything. I always say, the I Ching is free. Enjoy it. Have fun with it.
This is a question not a reply. Sorry.
looking for answer to the perplexing difference between I Ching numbers and visual hexagram, for example the six lines add up to a number that corresponds to a hexagram, but the visual hexagram does not match the numbers produced by the throws. The hexagram I got from my throws, adds up to 46, but no. 46 Sheng/Pushing Upward, looks totally different.
What piece of my understanding is missing?
Thanks so much.
Thanks for posting. I’m afraid I don’t understand your question. Perhaps you are leaving something out. You said that the six lines add up to a hexagram but it doesn’t match the visual. This doesn’t make sense. Can you be more specific in your process. The throwing of the coins and then writing down the line you get is a straight forward process. Where, how does it not match?
Hoping to be of help – Adele
I haven’t heard from you in ages but am now getting alot of emails from your site in the last couple of days – have you changed something? I don’t mind it’s just different. Love Victoria
No, I haven’t changed anything but am very behind on posting new images and new Hexagrams. I was working on my, “I Ching Record Book” which you can find on Amazon or PDF version here. I want to get back to the Hexagrams soon.
Thanks for asking.
Dear Adele, I barely understand this, this is the reading I got…. I tried it on a certain website…. I was asked to virtually toss coins for 6 times… and once I was done, this is everything that I had received…. Can we decipher anything at all from what we have on us right now?
……and again, thank you for being so prompt & for being so considerate…..
Much affection & Many Thanks,
Did you have any changing lines for Hexagram 2?
I am a piscean born on the 28th of feb 1979, my partner was born on 26th of feb 1976. We both are pisces, he’s 34 & I am 31. We have been in a long distance though very loving relationship for 5 long years, despite differences in our religions & our nationalities. We had thought we will overcome the cultural barriers with time. But unfortunately, things deteriorated post april this year, due to immense pressure from his family. The communication reduced, and after putting up a brave fight, my partner, started falling weak, and eventually under severe pressure gave into demands of his family and married someone from their community.
What hurts me the most, was he never faced me since, he didn’t even tell me he got married. In his last mail to me, he said he had no courage to look into my eyes or face me, but he loves me a lot and will never be able to love anyone else ever…..
….no matter how upset I am right now, I want to believe him, every word he’s uttered …. Believe me it was the most satiating bond, very fulfilling, I felt complete with him, and we could feel each other’s presence strongly despite the physical distance…. there were times, when I would be thinking of him, and the very next second I would receive his call…. it was something that I am unable to explain….. I really feel, very strongly, we ARE soulmates…..
I am devastated now, feel at severe loss, feel completely shakened from within…. I have all kinds of thought running in my mind… and sometimes I think if he even loved me all these years. I don’t want to believe that he didn’t. For I feel, he would have not waited this long, if he wanted to leave anyway.
I am completely at loss…. and am left with no sense to understand the situation….. I am very desperately trying to get some answers atleast…. I Ching is one such attempt to get some sense into everything that has come my way though I have no clue how it works….
My question, “Will ________- come back to me for good?”
The reading I received is,
02 K’un The Receptive
The Receptive brings about sublime success,
Furthering through the perseverance of a mare.
If the superior man undertakes something and tries to lead,
He goes astray;
But if he follows, he finds guidance.
It is favorable to find friends in the west and south,
To forego friends in the east and north.
Quiet perseverance brings good fortune.
The earth’s condition is receptive devotion.
Thus the superior man who has breadth of character
Carries the outer world.
Please help me understand this, give me some insight, and please let me know, if we have any chance of getting back together again… I really believed, he was my soulmate, and I am not able to believe, we will never see each other again in life…… please help! I really need some guidance…. God Bless….
I responded to your question in your previous post on Hexagram 2. I hope this was helpful. Check out Hexagram 2 responses. And thank you for your kind remarks on the images.
I love your images – they are incredible. In response (twice) to I Chings questions on my anxiety (I rarely ask the question twice, but each time I was so wrapped up in my fears I couldn’t resist getting some reassurance from the I Ching) and the answers were on the 1st time, Hexagram 2 with lines 2,3 and 5 and then 3 days later the same hexagram with moving lines 3,5 and 6. I am quite new to the I Ching and came across your website as I wanted more insight into these lines. Do you have any further thoughts on them? With many thanks, Victoria
I didn’t mean to take so long to get back to responding to your suggestion here. The subject of the sexism in the I Ching has to do, of course, with how old I Ching is, and the interpreters/translators being male. I agree with you that it could be an interesting series of discussions but I have my hands and mind full on what I’m doing with my work on this subject. I gladly invite the scholars of Chinese history and I Ching to comment.
Once, years ago, I was asked to give a talk with my images, at UC Berkeley on my I Ching Meditations. The males in the group, who were obviously very interested in I Ching, did not approve of what I was doing. And the females loved it.
I am really intrigued by this statement on your history page.
“Why are you interested in that sexist book that talks about the superior man all the time?” I Ching developed as the Chinese language developed over three thousands years ago so that question was not something I could respond to in a sound bite.
I understand that the question may also be too much for a single blog post but I bet it would be a really intriguing series!
As far as i know we have ‘ ren ‘ shaped like a clothes peg and
‘ da ‘ a clothes peg with a line drawn across it indicating arms outstretched that is ‘ big man ‘
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